i saw that after and adjusted the outbound rule and now saw the traffic hitting the gateway:
this is the 3cx error now:
05/01/2017 5:50:58 PM - Call(C:29461), Extn:1009 on exit: DlgInfo(29461-1696/Early / I)
05/01/2017 5:50:58 PM - Call(C:29461), Extn:1009 on entry: DlgInfo(29461-1696/Initial...